Tuesday, 15 January 2013

Are You Going Back To Work?

I'm sure like many mums to be I signed up to lots of baby clubs when I was pregnant. Cow and gate, Mothercare, Asda to name a few. I love getting the letters each month or so with information on what sort of Paige should be doing, tips, recipes and money off vouchers.

But lately all the ones I am getting are about returning back to work. Which is fair enough if you are returning to back after maternity leave but what if you aren't? What if you plan on being a stay at home mum?

I'm going to be a full time mum to Paige for as long as I can. I want to spend everyday with her and watch her grow. I want to teach her things and play and learn together.

I understand that many people simply can't afford and I am very lucky that we can but we pay the price. For example we don't have a car.

Marks earns an ok wage and with that we can pay all the bills and get everything Paige needs. We manage just fine and if we want/need something we save up for it.

I have looked into getting a part time job for when Paige is around 1 but I'm not sure it's worth it.... after childcare is paid for do I really want to spend time away from Paige for the sake of an extra £50 a week??

Me and mark always agreed that I would stay home with Paige and I am very happy to do so. A lot of people don't think of staying at home as a real job but I do. I'm on call 24 hours a day, I cook, clean and run around after a baby. I don't get proper breaks because even when baby is sleeping I'm always doing something or thinking of the next game we can play to keep her entertained, happy and learning. To me it's the hardest job around but all the payment I need is received in smiles from my little girl. I may moan to Mark about what a rough day I've had thanks to teething or a grumpy baby but I wouldn't change my job for the world and I know many women would love to be in my situation.

If your one of them people that don't think being a stay at home mum isn't a job why not try it one day and see how you feel after!

Thanks for reading,

Nicola xx


  1. You're absolutely doing a real job! I would love to be able to stay at home with my daughter! I'm very fortunate that my mum looks after her while I work part time and to me this is the next best thing. Personally I couldn't bring myself to leave her with anyone else and I hope I can do the same for my own grandchildren one day.

  2. Personally when I'm a mother I would be the same as you Nicola and would want to spend every single moment with my child and would want to be a stay at home Mother as long as I could! I can imagine how hard work it is being at home with your little one and that it is just as tiring as a full time job. I bet you never stop!

    But it must be a full time job that you love and that is so rewarding! It's worth running around like a headless chicken. Unlike boring 9-5's! When you wake up and want to cry rather than drag yourself there. Then when you get home all the cleaning, washing and cooking still needs to be done. Urghh!

    I personally cannot wait to have children and be able to not go to work for a while and spend time with my babies! I already think about it now and worry about being pressurised into going back to work when I am not ready. It breaks my heart thinking about it now and I don't even have a kid yet!!


  3. Also I think it depends on the Mother too! I think some Mothers give stay at home Mum's a bad name and I hate it that people tar people with the same brush!


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  4. yes, yes, yes it's a real job! I've been a stay at home mum for nearly 3.5 years and am on a mission to help other people realise it is a real job and is hard work! http://lifeaftermaternityleave.com/how-to-be-a-stay-at-home-mum


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